I had the Holy Spirit say this to me … He said, “Tell her, she needs to take ownership of her relationships”.
This came about because a friend and I were talking about her situation and the people involved. This “Word” surprised me; I had never thought about it this way before. One scripture verse that He gave was (Rom 13:8).
Rom 13:8 KJV Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law.
When you take ownership you don’t place the blame on others.
You see, when we are complaining, passing judgement, or not in agreement with another person; we can either pray about it and walk in love; or find fault and blame the other person. I began to seek Him in what He meant by this and asked Him to “Please explain it to me”.
That’s when, the Holy Spirit started dealing with me about my own relationships and how I responded to others. You see, love does not put blame on others for our own shortcomings or mistakes; insecurities or fears.
Taking ownership of my relationships meant that I look at it from Gods point of view. Putting pressure on people and pulling on people to make something happen isn’t love and it isn’t how God operates. I know having done this many times in the past. I tended to get frustrated when things didn’t go the way that I thought that they should, and so I’d place blame or I’d get frustrated about things not going fast enough or maybe things I thought that I had no control over to change; and therefore allowed anger and bitterness to creep in. These are fears. Not Good.
It’s all about Trusting God and allowing love to work
The way He explained it to me was concerning my trusting Him. The Bible has many verses talking explicitly about trusting in the Lord; and it all stems from love. So then, He began to explain to me about all the verses that talks about authority and power; and how I am to put on the armor of God; and how I’m supposed to live by faith and not by sight. It was like I was getting a connect the dots picture. I was seeing (in my mind’s eye), how I had handled things. If I’m taking ownership of my relationships, then it’s not ever about me and the other person/ or other people involved; it is just between me and my relationship with God, Himself.
You see, Love~forgives…Love~trust…Love~is patient…Love~suffers long. The responsibility then lies on my shoulders for trusting God. Trusting God means going to the scripture verse or verses, that applies to that particular situation and standing on it. Giving Him room to work and operate. Having the patience to wait it out; knowing the outcome is exactly how He stated it would be, if I wouldn’t waver. During the process, most likely I’d have to forgive someone; so the responsibility then is still mine alone. There is so much more, but just enough for me to chew on. Be blessed today. Carol Helmick
